Why Are We Always Late? The Psychology of Not Showing Up

We have all been on both sides of it. Waiting on someone who never showed. Or being the one who was late... again. This week Jojo scraps her original fired up take and asks a much more interesting question: why do we actually do this?

In this solo think piece, Jojo unpacks the surprising research on chronic lateness, from the planning fallacy to time blindness, and the deeper emotional roots most of us never look at: anxiety, self worth, control, perfectionism, self sabotage, old childhood wiring and people pleasing. She also shares a recent personal story about being completely no showed, and how she chose to respond with warmth and a very clear boundary.

This one is not a lecture. It is a mirror. Because the question is not just why is lateness rude. It is what is really going on underneath when we cannot seem to show up on time, or at all.

No tidy answers this week. Just a question worth sitting with: is your lateness about time, or about what you feel when you try to be on time?

Share this one with the friend who is always late. Lovingly, of course.

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